There is no question that Christmas is a time of conflict for those who are grieving. In the raw and early times after my baby's death, I found myself thinking that it was difficult to celebrate the birth of the Christ child, when all I wanted was my child! But time and a great deal of healing has been a soothing balm, so that I've learned to embrace a different attitude of gratitude, and I've found great truths in the experience of living a life of meaning and depth of understanding of what it means to be human in these situations.