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Posted by: Corry Roach on 7/31/2010 | 3 Comments

I’m sure we can all agree that there are many manifestations of grief that end up getting represented in a physical manner, simply because we are unaware of the fact that we are grieving, or we are suppressing the emotions and feelings we are having. As a dear friend said to me when I asked her what her reaction was to her being told she had breast cancer, she said, “I don’t have time for this!”


It is true that we don’t want to make time for grief, and it is also true that we must learn to recognize the importance of allowing its healing course to move through us. I often say with humour that we suffer from emotional constipation, transferring emotions of grief into physical symptoms if we don’t acknowledge our feelings. We need to become aware and give credence to our grief, as well as the quiet inner Voice within each and every one of us that waits to guide us into healing and a higher state of understanding, meaning and peace. The truth of the matter is that, if we don’t deal with unfinished business through the recognizable expressions of mourning, it will manage to distort and express itself in alternate ways.


I liken it to the saying that you can come now or later, and gently or kicking and screaming, yet one thing is sure: you are going to go through this!  

Posted by: Corry Roach on 7/28/2010 | 0 Comments

In going through some dated material at my office recently, I discovered a cassette tape of a talk given by Elisabeth Kubler Ross in 1980, shortly before I met her. It was delightful to listen to her humour and rapport with her audience as she spoke about the imperative issues we must learn around death and dying, which of course was all about life and living! It struck me instantly how timeless her thoughts and ideas are, and how I do need to keep sharing them in the hope that those who read this might find their “aha” moment, or change effectively how they facilitate their children’s emotional expression as well as their own, especially if they themselves were not allowed to do so…


We must realize that our emotional wounds of childhood either empower us to positive change in life, or they hold us back in a paradigm of limitedness of thought and attitude towards life and love. I know suicide and addictions are rampant due to unresolved grief issues and how we handle that in our culture.



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