I’m sure we can all agree that there are many manifestations of grief that end up getting represented in a physical manner, simply because we are unaware of the fact that we are grieving, or we are suppressing the emotions and feelings we are having. As a dear friend said to me when I asked her what her reaction was to her being told she had breast cancer, she said, “I don’t have time for this!”
It is true that we don’t want to make time for grief, and it is also true that we must learn to recognize the importance of allowing its healing course to move through us. I often say with humour that we suffer from emotional constipation, transferring emotions of grief into physical symptoms if we don’t acknowledge our feelings. We need to become aware and give credence to our grief, as well as the quiet inner Voice within each and every one of us that waits to guide us into healing and a higher state of understanding, meaning and peace. The truth of the matter is that, if we don’t deal with unfinished business through the recognizable expressions of mourning, it will manage to distort and express itself in alternate ways.
I liken it to the saying that you can come now or later, and gently or kicking and screaming, yet one thing is sure: you are going to go through this!